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Another thing: It's very easy to pull the "family life" card. You know what I mean? When you mess up a little it's the first thing you turn to. How many times on TV have you heard someone trying to justify their reason for doing something by explaining something that happened in the past. In the most dramatic way possible. You cannot really blame being a mass murder on being raised by a single parent. There are more products of fucked of families than their are of functional ones. After a certain point you have to learn from the situation, not rely on it for pity positions. You use the situation as a learning tool, not a crutch, so your life can be better because of it. I'm not saying this to make fun of or judge anyone, I'm saying it because I could easily list all of the fucked up things and situations in my past and current life when shit hits the fan. I would never have to own up to a single thing with the collection that I've got. But people definitely see you differently and often times can't get past pitying you. That's not a relationship, that's babysitting. You make zero progress anywhere. So what's the point?